Thanks for coming by for a minute or two of your life to help me.
My name is Adom and I am a 40-something married man to my wife of nearly 2 years. I started looking at this community recently as a way for us to improve our marriage. The draw for me is this- my wife is satisfied with the occasional “vanilla with a twist of kink” once in a while, and I want more.
Yes, I’ve perused the literotica stuff and tried to introduce some of the things I’ve read- but I am plagued by my wife telling me that “we” don’t need that “stuff” to enjoy sex. All of the stuff out there is mostly women looking to get their men to buy off on this stuff, probably after that 50 Shades book. but let’s face it, that stuff isn’t real life- two people trying on a brand new pair of boots that don’t fit- that’s us.
I am a Dom at heart and think I always have been. I enjoy sex- when I can get it, and my wife who has shown occasional bouts of submissiveness but tons of vanilla, seems to enjoy it too. But I need your help! I’m really looking for advice on how I can take my marriage to the level of D/s you all seem to be enjoying. I need this, I need to exercise my “inner Dom” -but I don’t know how to get my wife on board with this. So maybe this is my brain on D/s just trying to figure this out, and maybe, like some have said- it becomes their therapy for achieving what they can’t do on their own.
Thanks to all for any help you can offer.